I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality.
This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.– Martin Luther King
Lessons I Learned
1. A lie is found in the intention to decieve.
2. We can decieve without ever giving False Information.
We’re all scared about giving false information.
But a lie goes much further than incorrect information.
3. Secrets breed acts of deception.
Secrets are very close to lies … even if they aren’t meant to be deception
Avoid secrets in your life! And for your life
There is a difference in behaving correctly with important information.
And making someone swear.
Or holding them to a standard where lying is necissary.
Think twice before living a life in secret or making someone carry that burden with you.
I think many of us have heard and understand the difference between sacred vs. secret.
4. Distracting people from the information they really want is useful to maintain secrets and lies.
The best way to avoid telling people what you don’t want them to know is to pump them full of tons of other information.
Give them lots of information, even secrets or things you haven’t told anyone else. Massage their egos that they think their is nothing else you’re hiding.
Lies can be told without ever saying a word… deception in silence as well
“Lying is done with words and also with silence.” - Adrienne Rich
5. The most effective deception is done by using truths.
“Truth and falsehood are opposed; but truth is the norm not of truth only but of falsehood also.” CS Lewis
6. Best lies are made up of smattering of truths...
Factual statements are much more useful.
you yourself believe it more … and are therefore more convincing when you use them.
Always tell the truth. That way you don’t have to remember what you said.–Mark Twain
People think that a truth can only exist in something truthful.
“And then she understood the devilish cunning of the enemies’ plan. By mixing a little truth with it they had made their lie far stronger.” CS Lewis
7. Be very aware of Self-Deception
We think that lies are only done as an hostile act against someone else.
They aren’t necissarily hostile
They aren’t always against a 3rd person
Our own thoughts and words can decieve ourselves.
We can tell a lie so often that we start believing it ourselves.
These are probably the scariest concerns of all
Sensing a lie from a truth
There are certain people that just sense what’s really going down… but sometimes they can be fooled too.
8. Everyone can be fooled
A few people can kinda percieve when people are acting oddly or telling falsehoods or half truths or misleading truths.
But a lot of people can tell when you’re telling a flat out lie.
People can sense when you’re avoiding the issue or changing subjects.
But if you commit yourself to it, why would they ever believe that your lying.
Specially with someone who never ever lies. (like is my nature)
9. Being Fooled isn’t the end of the world
Seeking and understanding truth or lies is important… but…
9. I’ve found that being trusting is a wonderful trait.
If you’re always cautious about lies then you’ll miss out on so much and so will the people around you.
There are many cases it won’t ever effect you.
Don’t give someone too much if in case it comes back to bite you.
Knowing and understanding the nature is a big part.
Don’t give too much leeway to a rattlesnake
But don’t fear/treat the bunny rabit like the snake as well.
There seems to be many people get too hurt when they are fooled or lied to.
The mean spirited lies are never nice and easy to take… but don’t let it hurt you twice.
Cut your losses and go home while you’re ahead.
Revenge does not belong to you. It is the lord’s
That being said it’s important to become a person who can see truth easier.
All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.– Galileo Galilei
But we don’t have to sacrifice giving others trust too. I suppose it’s a balance.
Tricks of the Trade
10. Beware of Rhetoric
Rhetoric, WordSmithery, Smooth Talking – are keys to making things understood. Good and Bad.
There’s a reason we are so cautious and suspect of lawyers, politicians and sales people.
The trickiest most devious individual is: a smart smart person who can make you believe any lie… Just by the way they portray it.
The devil
10. Words can be weapons…
Just because it sounds pleasing to the ear and perhaps to the mind… doesn’t make it fully true.
It is like a lesson about Satan.
The Screwtape letters by C.S. Lewis is an amazing book that helps to understand the adversary.
What we’re fighting against everyday… throughout our world and culture.
The smoothest talkers have been proven to make hoards of people believe them because they employ such skillful rhetoric.
Everyone in power has used their communication skills and rhetoric to be there. Some with a heart full of truths.
Most with at least some intention to decieve us and have us follow them or vote for them.
11. Your reputation proceeds you.
Meaning who you are and what you’ve always been and done goes a long ways to stating your case.
It proceeds you. If you are known for being honest and open, why should anyone doubt you.
I am happy to announce that it appears that my adherence to being honest really helped me out.
12. Don’t loose faith
Even if some truths are misused and abused and distorted… the real truth is always their to those who honestly seek.
“The truth is rarely pure and never simple.” – Oscar Wilde
“You can bend it and twist it… You can misuse and abuse it… But even God cannot change the Truth.” – Michael Levy
13. All this being said … The End
April fools day has become one of my favorite holidays
It is funny how it’s seen as such a game.
The victor is the person with a well executed prank
And also those that don’t believe it.
I’m not so sure I’m into that aspect… but it’s fun none-the-less
At the very least I’m happy that I learned so much and internalized so much from the days event.
In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act. –George Orwell
JaTwAw (Twitter Awards)
May 12, 2009It’s been a year this month since I started using twitter.
I think to celebrate I’ll give out awards.
JArvie TWitter AWards
Yes feel free to be jealous and covet
Most likely to respond award
1st place: @dwterry
2nd place: @Jeremyhall
3rd place: @skylercall
Most helpful in real life award
1st place: @jeremyhall
2nd Place: @kellybranan,
3rd Place: @jrbechthold ,
4th Place: @leggnet
Best Tweet Award:
1st Place: @leggnet / @nicolesy
“Quote @nicolesy during lunch at todays shoot: “I follow @jarvie on twitter, but I don’t get what’s so special about him”. LOL
2nd Place: @cboyack:
“Dear IRS, Please remove me from your mailing list. Thanks. #teaparty”
3rd Place: @LiquidHeaven
The pigeons outside my window are total sluts. 5 eggs in 6 weeks? Come on now… wrap it up guys!”
Most Friendly on Twitter Award: @dwterry
Who I want to be like when I grow up award: Co-Champs @kellybranan or @jeremyhall
Best political commentary: @cboyack
honorable mention: @jaycehall & @russpage
Best non-person informative twitter account award: @masteroftrivia
Coolest CEO on twitter award: @donmacaskill
Most like to give away stuff award: @scottbourne
Most likely to post an accomplishment award: @leggnet
Most likely for me to disagree with completely and not spare words and yet remain friends award: @bwjones
Best LDS twitterer award: @cboyack
Best information on the Book world: @bencrowder
Most enthusiastic about photography award: @carissauribe
Coolest Musician on Twitter award: @bentonpaul
Most opposite from me, photography-style award: @leggnet
Funnest, Honestest, Best-lookin Lawyer award award: @Katiebq
Best banter between two individuals award: @kellybranan & @charlesuibel
Most active twitterer award: @calanan
Best lightroom resource award: @heninger
honorable mention: @xequals
Best photography resource to know: @pictureline
Fastest ever to become a great photographer award: @lookieloosuz
Last to the twitter game (so far) award: @mkshelley
Best flirt award: @chillylint
Most unlike the others i follow award: @kissmekate77
Most likely to give you feedback on pictures award: @dwterry
Best avatar awards: @ziggyp @leggnet @lookieloosuz @diamondmind @threewinks, @kennethlinge
Biggest concert fanatic on twitter award : @chrisbcrazy
Best organizer of stuff award: @jeremyhall
Most followers award: @aplusk
Best responder to referrals award: @myler
Photogs I should get together with next time in that area award: @ricksammon @thomashawk
Most famous person to DM me award: @mchammer
Best tweet about LDSCONF award: @cboyack
“The commands of God have taken a beating in the vacillating marketplace of ideas.” – E. Ballard #ldsconf
Best promoter award: @leggnet
Most controversial topic of the year on twitter award: prop 8 (same sex marriage)
Most disturbing icon: @dilvie
Saddest actions of tweeps in the last year un-award: voting for @barackobama or @johnmccain
Wonder why people follow award: @dooce
Trickiest maneuver to become follower 1000 award: @instudio
Most necessary twitter program award: @tweetdeck
Best twitter promoted purchase: blackrapid strap via @pictureline
Tweep who people would be surprised (including me) to know I follow and enjoy: @mileycyrus
Closest twitter-friend met while staying in a line all night long: @louish
Utah person I still have been meaning to meet: @paulballen
Doesn’t tweet much anymore but i bet has lots of good things to say: @jrbond
About my twitter experience thus far:
Overall I try to add value to my twitter stream by posting informative facts.
And yes things that happen to me so that others in my situation are benefited.
This next year I’ll continue to do the same, but at the same time I want to spice it up a bit.
Some things that happened thus far:
Number of followers at beginning of the year abt 300
Number of followers when writing this post: 1223
Saddest tweet: Overheard: father yells 2 son ” when will you realize what reality is… Never come back here again” quite neighborhood. Felt like a movie
Funniest tweet: Sign: “Unattended children will receive a puppy and a free espresso” http://twitpic.com/21kj8
Best rumor started on Twitter: “I hear they’re giving away FREE LENSES at #pictureline opening today. Just ask for NICK @ngilson. Keep it on the DL I want to come get one.”
first 3 people to DM me on twitter no longer follow me: @windley @bradwill @merrilee
First annual JaTwAw had: 61 recepients to 27 different awards
For you photographers out there… Look for tweets that start off: “Wedding Referral” etc
If you are planning on doing twitter awards I would suggest having had used the favorites option on twitter, saves a lot of time.
Oh yeah… one last thing… Follow me @Jarvie